Friday, October 29, 2010

Collinsville, Texas and in the News

Hi All,

We are all delayed for a few weeks as Baby has a rope burn that has made her "limpy".  We are not worried though as plans take shape for resuming our ride.  All 4 of us are safe and sound...and will keep you posted as to what is going on in the meantime with her healing.

Meanwhile I have a few more days of blogging to catch up on that is forthcoming.  And we are happy to say that we were given great press in Gainesville, TX just the other day.  Here is the Links to the News Article and pictures.  For those who have trouble loading is the text of the article below them

Couple hits the trail to help raise awareness of disease

Cooke County — Two riders are in town after hitting the road on horseback for their 1,200-mile “Buffaloo Moon Ranch Legacy Ride for Cancer.”

Megan Carter and Mark Dube started their ride Oct. 10 from her Buffalo Moon Ranch in Faxon, Okla. and roughly estimate they will reach their destination of Largo, Fla. around Valentines Day.

Part of their purpose for the ride is to hear life stories about how cancer has affected people’s lives and they are meeting up with people along the trail. In their own words they are “traveling America by horse to bring hope to families who have been touched by cancer.”

Their Cancer Memorial and Legacy Wall on their website includes the names of people they have met and heard about on their legacy ride.

Their travel style is similar to that of Anthony Bordain, whose “No Reservations” on the Travel Channel documents his travels as he takes things as they come each day. Their smart phone which includes the internet and Google maps, is a great trail tool and is helping them to navigate even bridges, interstates and eventually the Mississippi River.

Their travels are recorded on their website at through video and text blogs and a link to their Facebook site. They invite comments and communication as they ride the road.

Prior to hitting Gainesville, they came through Nocona and Muenster on their “trusty steedetes” Baby and Fancy.

“It’s all about them too. We take impeccable care of them,” Carter noted of their horses. “We don’t go very far. Today we only went six miles. Yesterday we went 11. We typically ride three days on and take one day off. It’s very easy on them. We have all the correct, lightweight gear.”

Hosts often help the riders by taking their gear to the next place of rest.

“We have ridden just one day with gear out of the last four, making the miles so easy on our horses,” Carter notes. “A big thank you for all our hosts to make this happen.”

Dube said that although they are “riding as a charity,” Buffalo Moon Ranch is not a non-profit organization.

“Those who want to donate money to help search for a cure for cancer should donate to a cancer charity of choice,” he noted.

They do welcome the help of hosts and sponsors as they venture the trail. They are hoping that suppliers and manufacturers of horse feed and other horse supplies will help them care for their horses and sponsor them.

One way to participate in finding the cure for cancer and bringing hope can be to help the riders and horses out with food and shelter and they continue on the legacy ride. Their next stops are along the Whitesboro, Sherman, Tom Bean and Dorchester trail, so if locals know of a place they can camp out or shelter with someone for the night, Carter and Dube can be contacted easily through their website.

Another way to participate in the legacy race is to join in the ride with your own horse. The rules are participation at a minimum of one day and a maximum of five days unless prior arrangements are made.

Thursday, October 21, 2010

Meet Donna Howel Sickles at

Arrival at Donna's Art Gallery - a slice of Artistic Treasures in Saint Jo, Texas

This little gallery alot people say, "NO WAY.. here in Saint Jo?" Yep, here in St Jo. Many artists have their work displayed in her gallery. Each are unique pieces of artistic license and it's the kind of gallery you would see in a fine arts place like Denver or L.A or some other urban mecca. But St. Jo's little treasure really sits in the heart of Northern Texas....and epitomizes the American Cowgirl. This is just a brief update and the pictures below are a pictorial of our meeting with Donna (and Tiffany) at her Gallery on main street. Check her work out at and see how her american cowgirls come to life!

More on our rest day a few days away...and maybe sooner than that if we have the time. A few things before I close


Mayor Tom Weger for his barn for our horses and ourselves. He owns the Texas Kings hotel in town but we have opted to stay near the girls tonight and camp out. We are very comfy.

Sonny Cole for featuring us in next weeks paper

TRACY.... you have outdone yourself sister! Bringing all our gear, feed and hay here....and also helping us get situated two towns away in Gainesville.

Stepheny....thanks for setting us up with the Nocona newsman and all your hospitality last night and the hay today.

Donna Howell Sickles --- you made it all happen for us here in St. Jo. We hope to return and PURCHASE something when we are able to carry something back home with us.

SO that's it for now and enjoy the pictures...see you all on down the trail...we think of all of you often who are involved in this ride. Because I have said it before and will say it again a million times that each time we swing up into the saddle, you are RIGHT HERE WITH US in spirit!!!!

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Friday, June 18, 2010

The Turtle on the Fence Post

On my fridge I have a favorite magnet. It has a drawing of a turtle perched on a wooden post. Underneath it are the words “Whenever you see a turtle on top of a fence post, you know he had some help.” Absurd as that might be - especially since turtles live in water - it's a reminder to me that we all need help to get where we’re going in life. Nobody really makes it on their own. From the day we’re born, support is what nurtures us and encourages us to thrive throughout our lives.

Support is emotional nutrition that energizes and fortifies us. We all need it in our daily lives to help us live well. It's not just for bad times, or when we need help to get to the top of the post.

Support is a cushion. It’s there to sink into when you’re tired. It’s there to ease the hard times. It gives you comfort.

But there's a limitation to what support can do. It can’t put your life back together. It can only help you do that job.

When I was in low spirits I was surrounded by support, and yet I often felt alone. My life had collapsed, and looking ahead I had no idea how I was going to live. All I knew was that I was the one who was going to have to make a life for myself again. Nobody else could do it for me.

Others can put the details in place to make it easy for you to take a step, but you are the one who has to step.

For a number of reasons, you might find it hard to ask for and accept help. You may not have had very much support in your life so you don’t know how to ask for it, and accepting it feels awkward. You may believe that if you're not 100% self-reliant you're weak. You may think that if you depend on others, you'll lose control, and that might frighten you.

If you have trouble asking for and accepting support, it helps to remember a simple truth: we can’t get by in this world without each other.

Thousands of people make it possible for us to function in our daily lives. Think of all the people who grow our food, make our clothes, pump our gas, supply our water, heat our homes, and manufacture our medicines. And that only covers a handful of our basic necessities!

It's not just physical and material things we depend on each other for. We need each other for emotional nurturing too. Admitting this makes some people feel vulnerable and weak. We put such a high value on independence that we sometimes forget the reality of the human experience. We are relational beings, and from the moment we’re born, we’re driven to form emotional connections.

As difficult as it may be, it is good to ask for help when you need support. Reaching out does not mean you are weak. It means you have a natural human need.

Look to the people you trust for support and, even though you might feel uncomfortable, try your best to accept it. Support is useless unless you are receptive to it. All you have to do is graciously accept it and know that in time, life will give you abundant opportunities to reciprocate.

Trying to find the support you need during a difficult time can be a challenge in itself. It's often a process of trying different things until you find what works for you. The important thing is to keep looking even though you might feel frustrated and discouraged.

Listening to people you trust and respect can give you direction. Consider their suggestions about what you might find supportive. Try them out if you think they might help.

Of all the things that helped me get through adversity, support was the most important. Almost all the people I've talked to who have faced a life-changing crisis say support played a huge role in helping them get their life back together again.

Support comes from all kinds of people, places and things, but I have found it generally takes one of three forms.

Doing! This is the form of support we're really good at. Human beings are multitasking masters! We love to DO things! In some ways this special skill has become too much of a good thing. There are more stress-related problems than ever these days! But when a crisis stops you in your tracks or hardship slows you down to a crawl, having someone there who will do the things that need to be done provides tremendous relief.

Being! One afternoon a friend came and sat by my bed when I was in the hospital. She read the paper. She asked me at one point if I was mad. I said I was. Other than that we didn't talk. I remember her visit as if it had happened yesterday. It was wonderfully calming and comforting. "Just being there" is the form of support many people find most difficult to give - not because they don't want to give it, but because they don't know how to. People who are "doers" (most of us), think they aren't doing anything when they're just sitting with someone.

They are.

They think they are not being helpful.

They are.

They feel inadequate and ineffective.

They are not.

Many people who have faced a devastating adversity will tell you their most profound experience of support was when someone simply spent time with them not doing anything. When people sit quietly, or walk with someone in silence, or just listen attentively, they are sending an unforgettable message. They are saying "you are not alone."

The healing power of that message is beyond measure.

Motivating/encouraging: All support is intended to encourage, but some kinds of support are particularly motivating. This is support that can only come from those who are close to you - because they know you, and from those who have also experienced adversity - because they know what you're going through.

When friends and family encourage you, they are telling you "We know you and we believe you can do this!" In times when it's difficult to see your capabilities, having someone who knows you point them out helps bolster your belief in yourself.

When you are struggling with adversity, being around someone who has overcome it and is living well gives you hope. In them you can see that things can get better. When they encourage you they are telling you "I am a person just like you and I got through it. You can do it too!"

Support is everywhere. It comes from other people - strangers, best friends, communities and organizations. It comes from your environment, from your Higher Power, and from cherished things. It comes from you as a gift to yourself - learning how to take care of yourself is an important part of healing for many people!

Support is anything that freely nurtures and sustains you. The possibilities are endless. A singing bird on a quiet afternoon can do it. A day at an amusement park can do it too. Solitary meditation does it for some people. Attending a support group does it for others. A smile can be just as supportive as a community-wide relief effort. It just depends on you and what you need at any given time.